The ultimate rules of dating.
So what do you think dating/dating process is, You dress up nice nice perfume, nice restaurant, meet a new person and may be get lucky if thinks go extremely well. You are wrong.
Yes the above things are part of it but that’s not the point. The point of dating is to find out if that person is worthy enough to become your partner or not.
Think of it as a job, the world’s most important job. Think about it, if that person becomes your partner you will spending most of your time with time, going movies, going on holidays, sharing your food, in future your room your bed. That is serious stuff, you can just give the post of your partner to just any one who looks good or comes on time on the date. Our company had to hire senior engineer it took them 2 years to find 1 person for a job that he/she can quit any time.
Dating is interviewing the other person if he is fit for you. You need to know your self well and I have another story that explains the process of having a basic list in finding the person to date click here to read that, but once you are dating you need to have certain questions in you head, which will be the deal breaker for you.
For example if you love traveling and want to travel the world and the other person is scared of flights. You would have to deal with that every time you travel, then you need to ask your self can you live with that?
Or you hate smoking and the other person smokes a lot and have no plan on quitting any time soon or ever. Like in my case I was dating some one from a different culture and everything else was going great so I asked him If his family or may be future partner has to follow certain dress code, and he said not It does not matter whether you wear she wears bikini or hijab its her choice and nothing to do with me. wear whatever the hell she likes. That was the perfect answer for me if he had said I would have to cover or wear certain clothes I would have said bye see you never and block his number.
I had a friend who was marring some one and she did not even know if he had college degree or he had finished his school or not and guess what she is getting a divorce now.
Another friend who is in divorce process and she did love marriage and before and she did not find out much about her partner and she said there were some red flags in beginning that she ignored, as she was blinded by love.
My advice is to hold off your emotions until you know every thing about the other person.
Being in a wrong relationship in past will help you in your new relationship as based on your old experience you would know what you want and what you don’t want.
